Life with two kids is busier than one. Surprise Surprise.
But the funny thing is that I am enjoying it so much more than with just one. It feels natural this time around. Babies stay in jammies some days, kids have stained clothes, meals are a bit more basic and everyone is just happier.
Feeling like I was not the most “natural” mom the transition into motherhood was extremely difficult. I’ve said it before, but I never dreamt of being a mom but always wanted to be a grandma. But one step at a time.
The best part about having two is the relationship between the kids. What a joy it is to see the friendship start to blossom. And I love when they play with each other. I don’t have nearly as much guilt when I can’t be 100% present and playing with them. I don’t rush to turn on classical music when I’m not interacting with them. Yes, I used to be a little high strung.
Life is more laid back. The baby even eats processed food which the old me would have never let happen.
Life is also exciting. Before I thought being a mom meant I had to die to all my dreams and interests. Who has time for those? But magically with one more kid more time has appeared. Or maybe I’ve just adapted to a new fast paced and messier life. And it’s been great. Now I make sure that I get a break and exercise. Rozalyn (my design buddy) and I have tackled some great projects. Life is full but really really good.
And now that I’m a more seasoned mom I am not thrown off by a horrible day and yell that the sky is falling. If you’re an old reader you’ll understand. I was a bit dramatic. Parenting, like life, is a rollercoaster. Major ups and downs occur but at the end of the ride (or season) you can usually look back and say “wow that was a doozy, but heck it was fun.” Or something like that.
And if I’m honest, finding the perfect balance is not easy. This last week I’ve been having such a wonderful time working on the design projects, I’m just not sure where to take the direction of this blog. It’s been a collection of mom-life-stuff for so long that I’m beginning to consider narrowing my scope. More to come on that.
So what does the perfect balance look like in your life? I’d love to hear so we can all blossom and bloom.